It seems counter intuitive to have to "practice" being present, but this seems to be the nature of the human experience. If we let the mind go where it will, it goes everywhere but here!
We can become familiar with what kind of mind we have for the purpose of staying more present. In the present moment we are more steady and open to what is arriving, or what needs to be dealt with in a skillful manner. Not to mention, connect to the deeper meaning, beauty or invitation of the moment—this sacred moment.
Is your mind one that holds a plethora of discursive thoughts about the past? Or about the future? My mind tends towards the future most often, having struggled with anxiety for many years. My mind may want to catastrophize about what's wrong or could go wrong. The phone simply needs to ring unexpectedly and my first reaction is to think, "Oh, no, what's happened?" especially when it comes to my children or mother. I tend toward anticipatory anxiety when it comes to travel, deadlines, or big life events too. The practice of staying present has saved my sanity over and over again, and minimized unhealthy responses to what isn't true and may never be true.
That said, many people have minds that dwell on the past. They may swim in a sea of regret, anger or sadness minimizing the gift of the moment or its many possibilities.
It doesn't matter which kind of mind you have (and there certainly are other varieties, I'm simplifying here), only that you recognize it kindly, with warm-hearted curiosity, so you can know how to be with it in the most generous and skillful way. Ram Dass once said,"My thinking mind is a perfect servant and a lousy master." I tend to agree.
How do we invite the mind to serve us? I believe we invite it back to a place of neutrality—calm, equanimity— again and again. This is the practice. And it has been my primary practice for over 25 years now. My breath has saved me from my wild mind again and again.
Here is a practice for doing so yourself. I call it "Breathing for Well-Being." And here's an affirmation to go along with it. I hope it helps you stay connected to your wise self and sacredness of the present moment.
"Whenever I feel off balance, I bring my awareness to the earth, feel my feet upon its sacred soil, and allow its solidity to hold me in Presence."
(Excerpt below from Portable Peace: A Weekly Guidebook)
is a touchpoint. a resting place, a "remembering" of who we really are and how we can best live—kindly and compassionately with ourselves and others.
Janice Lynne Lundy, DMin
is an educator, interspiritual director/guide and retreat leader who has been pointing people back toward the Sacred for more than twenty years. She is the author of several spiritual growth books, including Your Truest Self, My Deepest Me and Portable Peace., and is the co-founder and co-director of the Spiritual Guidance Training Institute.