As a mother, we can feel oh, so grown up and responsible—often overly responsible! Even though we have children, we may have lost sight of the little girl who lives inside of us. She is still here. Our inner child is ever present and in need of our attention too.
Envision in your mind’s eye, what you looked like as a child. See yourself happy and carefree, having fun! Look carefully at yourself and notice your face and hair, your hands and feet. What are you wearing? What are you doing? How are you enjoying yourself in the moment? Log that image in and hold it in your consciousness.
When you are feeling self-critical, harsh or judgmental toward yourself, call upon this memory of yourself as a little girl. Bring her to mind again and see her very clearly. Be aware of her innocence and sweetness. Be aware of the tenderness you feel toward her.
Now replace that image in your mind’s eye with you—as you are right now. See yourself standing there, the little girl all grown up. Look into your eyes and see her eyes; view your heart and see her sweet little heart. They are still very much here.
Look at the adult you’ve become with “soft eyes,” with eyes of compassion. Regard her with warmth and tenderness. Enfold her energetically with love. Feel that love and welcome yourself “home.”
This is an excerpt from The Mindful Mommy's Back-to-School Survival Guide, but it's good advice for any woman who finds herself being harsh with herself. When in doubt, be loving and kind ... especially to yourself!
is a touchpoint. a resting place, a "remembering" of who we really are and how we can best live—kindly and compassionately with ourselves and others.
Janice Lynne Lundy, DMin
is an educator, interspiritual director/guide and retreat leader who has been pointing people back toward the Sacred for more than twenty years. She is the author of several spiritual growth books, including Your Truest Self, My Deepest Me and Portable Peace., and is the co-founder and co-director of the Spiritual Guidance Training Institute.