Sometimes we don’t need to pursue happiness.
Lately, I'm living by this quote.
When you think about it, there really is no point in seeking happiness. If you go looking for it, it's possible you won't find it. Besides, so often when we do set our sights on something, we're disappointed once we get there!
That's why I'm practicing (and the key word here is "practice") what Rabbi Sacks advises. It's so much wiser to pause and let happiness find us. And it's a lot less driven ... Ah, relief!
So how do you do this anyway, let happiness catch up with you?
This was one of my primary intentions in taking my own "Year for Me." I wanted to be more conscious of how fast I was moving through my days. I hoped to get more in tune with my natural rhythm and align my daily activities with that. My deepest desire was to get in touch with my soul's urgings.
To do this we have to pause. Often. Lots of pausing is required ...
... And stopping, breathing, noticing, naming, feeling it all too.
And we are not a people who pause well, are we?
If we stop to look at something, people gawk and say, "What is up with her?"
But pause and linger is what we must do if we are to allow happiness to find us.
We DO have to walk more slowly and let the power walkers pass us on the sidewalk.
We DO have to look up at the sky or down at the ground to catch the intricacies and marvelousness of nature while others stare, wondering what the heck we're doing.
We DO have to sit on a bench and people watch so we can get in touch with our shared humanity—how unique we are yet how much the same—even if others question our motives.
This type of pause is vital to our well-being. It is a Sacred Pause. It is a pause that not only refreshes but plugs us back into what is most important in life.
Simple pleasures. People. Beauty. Our true selves. The Divine.
It is a pause like this which allows happiness to sneak up behind us, tap us on the shoulder, and say, "Here I am. Remember me?"
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is a touchpoint. a resting place, a "remembering" of who we really are and how we can best live—kindly and compassionately with ourselves and others.
Janice Lynne Lundy, DMin
is an educator, interspiritual director/guide and retreat leader who has been pointing people back toward the Sacred for more than twenty years. She is the author of several spiritual growth books, including Your Truest Self, My Deepest Me and Portable Peace., and is the co-founder and co-director of the Spiritual Guidance Training Institute.