Do you have a space in your home to call your own? According to author Virginia Woolf, every woman needs two things: her own money and her own room. There are tremendous benefits to carving out a space of your own. I am sure we would all love our own rooms, filled to the brim with the hues, scents and items we truly love. This would be an ideal situation: to create a space you can go to when the voice of solitude or self-indulgence calls. Orchestrate it so that the moment you enter, peaceful thoughts greet you. It would be the “perfect” place, not unlike a little Eden, where your whole self is surrounded by beauty.
However, in real life, most of us share spaces with partners, children, grandchildren or friends. Our spaces are full of other people's stuff, which when given a choice, we personally wouldn't have there at all.
We have to be realistic in creating a personal space for ourselves amidst the clutter of busy households. I’ve met many women who have carved out their own niche in a household that bustles with activity. One friend moved into a new house and selected a small extra bedroom for herself that she dubbed her "angel room." (Some of us have done this, but elected to call it an "office" instead.) She painted it her favorite color, filled it with her most loved books and music, endearing photos, motivational prints and fragrant candles. She goes there to renew focus or to get away from it all.
Without the luxury of an entire room, we can claim a corner or section of a room as "ours." I don't have the luxury of a room of my own, so I tend to create cozy corners for myself all through my house. For one such corner, I purchased a lovely oversized wicker chair with tapestry cushion and a reading lamp. They sit in a corner by a built-in bookshelf. I removed all of the books and started from scratch, replacing them with my personal favorites—some I’ve read, others I’ve not—books whose words give me sustenance. On top of the book-shelf, I placed scented candles, a piece of native American pottery I bought in Arizona, a carved stone that says, "Strength," and a miniature watercolor of an empowered woman by one my favorite Michigan artists. I removed the knick-knack shelf that had been there for seven years and hung a new motivational print I found in a gallery. A basketful of my favorite magazines sits by the chair. It's MY corner and I love to sit or read there. Surrounded by “chosen” things, relaxation comes more quickly. My body feels safe; I feel at home in myself and in my space.
If you do not have the luxury of a "room of your own," Virginia Woolf style, and you desire a personal haven, I would offer this suggestion:
A dresser or desktop can serve the same purpose. A small nightstand by your bed, carefully arranged with your favorite things, is good option. Even a space as small as that sends messages of self-importance and worth to you, and to those around you. Place in your space only those things that evoke positive, mood enhancing feelings or memories. Special photographs, intimate gifts and handmade items are all good choices. Keep it clean, tidy, updated—sacred.
Feel free to change and alter your personal space at your whim. Always remember that it's your personal space, created to support your spiritual well-being and no one else's. By creating personal sacred space, we are sending messages to our self that we are worthy of time, expense and attention. In doing so, we also affirm that we are sacred beings, creatures of inner peace, beauty and goodness.
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Join me on on Wed. April 2 for a "Spiritual Health In-Venture,"Creating Sacred Space in Your Home and in Your Heart."
It's a one-of-a-kind tele-seminar to help you reclaim the Sacred in your physical space and within yourself. Every woman needs the blessing of a living environment that feels welcoming and beautiful. As women, we also need sacred space WITHIN us; an inner landscape that welcomes in the Holy. Join me for an enlivening and practical evening where we'll tend to all aspects of your "Home" so that sacred energy infuses you AND your surroundings each and every day. I hope you will join me!
is a touchpoint. a resting place, a "remembering" of who we really are and how we can best live—kindly and compassionately with ourselves and others.
Janice Lynne Lundy, DMin
is an educator, interspiritual director/guide and retreat leader who has been pointing people back toward the Sacred for more than twenty years. She is the author of several spiritual growth books, including Your Truest Self, My Deepest Me and Portable Peace., and is the co-founder and co-director of the Spiritual Guidance Training Institute.