​Unconditional love—the glorious, "forever after" kind of love of dreams and fairy tales— can only become real when we set it free from expectations, from all those limiting "shoulds." Unconditional love is love without conditions--without rules, lists, even thinly disguised hopes. Simply put, if love is tied to any of these, it will surely disappoint. Our expectations of love limit it. The conditions we place upon it stop its flow.
 
A very wise teacher of love, Daphne Rose Kingma, may have said it best: "Let go of love as you want it so that, finally, you can take hold of love as it is." This, in my view, is what unconditional love really means: to release it from expectations so it can surprise and delight us again and again. Love blooms in an atmosphere of liberty not “shoulds,” and when we allow our love to be free, so are we. Then, and only then, will we experience the love we have been longing for.
 
Today, how can you set love free in your own life?

​©2025, Janice L. Lundy

At any time during your busy day, stop what you're doing and take a break to center yourself, to remember who you are, a "human being," not a "human doing."  
 
Without going anywhere, you can restore and rejuvenate yourself with a relaxing "Soul Infusion": a brief period of “dropping in,” a short respite from the pace of life, and a coming home to your sacred self. Stop, listen, re-connect. Say to yourself, ‘Breathe, I am a human BE-ing.’

​©2025, Janice L. Lundy