Hello lovely one,
It's May, it's May, that glorious month of May, and my thoughts are infused with gratitude for the beauty that is emerging all around me. May is truly one of my favorite months for this reason, and a few others.
It holds the essence of Mother's Day, of course, and I love having the privilege of being a mother. As I write this, I am assisting in the care of my youngest daughter who just had brain surgery. (She is doing well, thank you.) So "mothering" is on my mind and, at the same time, I'm also aware that this particular holiday can bring up painful memories for many of us. Not having a durable relationship with one's mother, having had an emotionally absent mother, the death of one's mother; experiencing loss as a mother-to-be (miscarriage, childbirth), losing a child, being unable to have children ... These are all such tender situations, which is why I prefer to think of Mother's Day each year as "Mothering Day. (I created this short video a while back explaining this.)
On the path of self-actualization, it is vital that we, no matter our history or upbringing (or if we are a mother or not), learn how to "mother ourselves". To mother one's self means to cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself that is generous and unconditionally loving, nurturing and nourishing. When you effectively learn to mother yourself, you are no longer unskillfully dependent on others for the advancement of self-esteem. You know how to attend to your outer and inner needs. You believe in yourself. You can easily muster up self-compassion when it's needed instead of treating yourself harshly or judgmentally. In other words, you act toward and hold yourself as the ideal mother (archetype) would. Make sense?
The Year of Living Gently
Take a breath, and drop into a kinder, gentler place within yourself.