If you are feeling off-center, what can you do right now to change this?

Could you stop what you're doing and take five gentle breaths?

Can you push away from the computer, set down your phone, and step out in nature to focus on its beauty?

Simple acts of self-care like these are easily forgotten when your day picks up pace.

Keep your intention for self-awareness strong so you can give yourself what you need to remain calm and clear throughout your day.

​©2023, Janice L. Lundy

Silence and solitude are vital to our well-being. Time to be alone, without the clamor of a noisy world and the needs of others, is essential for creating physical, mental, and emotional harmony. In fact, silence and solitude may be the foundational practice for living as our true selves; as beings who are innately confident, peaceful, openhearted, kind and generous. Without periods of and places for silence and solitude, it's difficult to connect with the essence of who we really are. In truth, we must desire inner calm more than chaos and create an environment and a routine that allows us to access it on a regular basis. 

Today, how might you create space and opportunity for yourself to be restored by silence and solitude?

​©2025, Janice L. Lundy

How fast do you walk and talk? Are you rushing through your day to get things done? Are you living by the clock? 
 
Rushing creates stress and stress creates tension, which creates more problems than we can name. Rushing also makes us miss the magic of the moment, including the joy of intimate conversation between friends and family. 
 
Consciously slow the pace of your day. Walk more slowly. Speak more slowly, more intentionally. Remind yourself to "Breathe, go slowly, and smile," as Zen monk, Thich Nhat Hanh advocates. Take time to smell the roses.

​Kindness toward yourself is an act of befriending. Kindness toward others is an act of altruism. Combine both and you'll cultivate a heart of compassion. Benevolence will be yours. 
 
By doing "the good work of self," you will create a life for yourself that is happier, healthier, more love-filled. It is this "inner progress" that can motivate you because it naturally follows that if you tend well to your inner landscape, constructive changes will take place in your outer world too. 
 
"As within, so without," the sages of the past have told us. And it's true. Whatever progress we make in our minds and hearts cannot help but be reflected throughout society.

​© 2024, Jan Lundy

What do you do when your wisdom eludes you? When you feel overcome with emotion or ill equipped to handle life as it is? According to Buddhist teacher and author, Thich Nhat Hanh, our safest course of action is "indirect embracing."
 
Most of us have a difficult time embracing all of our emotions, especially the volatile ones. It is a genuine spiritual practice to embrace anger, greed, jealousy, and the like. But we can, with the help of our breath and an attitude of loving-kindness.
 
Thich Nhat Hanh suggests that you recognize the emotion by simply saying hello to it, offering it a slight smile, just like you would someone you're not fond of, but don't want to be impolite to. Allow this hello and an inner smile help you rest into your breath with gentleness. Relief can be yours.

©2023, Janice L. Lundy

​How can you be with yourself in a more kindly way?
 
Would it be to quiet yourself and rest? To let go of a pressing deadline? To re-engage a spiritual practice you've been too busy to enjoy? Choose one. Do one.
 
Do a good deed today by being good to you.

Many years ago I did a kind thing for myself. I stopped trying to create balance in my life. Instead I made a kinder choice: create inner harmony.

Balance, by its very nature, is impossible to achieve. Nothing is ever balanced (I'm thinking of the see-saw [teeter-totter) of my childhood here ...). It's either up or down. Too much or too little. Trying to achieve balance for me was a self-defeating choice because no one can ever get anything "just right." I experienced trying to get my life in balance as pressure, resulting in failure (of course!)—a misguided attempt at perfection. 

But harmony, oh, that had a lovely, gentle ring to it. It reminded me of musical notes coming together in a pleasing way. More like rhythm. A delightful blending of elements that just flowed.  Now this I could get behind. I decided to pitch balance and opt for harmony instead. 

Instead of striving for and struggling with balance, how can we shift our efforts to focus instead on creating inner harmony? Here's  an idea, a simple starting point. 

You can begin to create greater harmony in your life by paying close attention to what your body is trying to tell you in any given situation, honoring that revelation, then making choices that foster your well-being. 
 
You can do this by literally listening to your body through the vehicle of your senses. Pay mindful attention to what you are seeing and hearing. Note your body's response. Ask yourself, 'Is this experience creating feelings of peace and well-being in me, or is it causing me stress, worry, pressure or fear?'
 
When we listen mindfully, we can make healthy, new choices for ourselves—choices rooted in loving-kindness. 

And new choices are easy to make and implement when they are sourced in self-kindness. 

​©2024, Janice L. Lundy

As often as the “too muchness” of life might sometimes overtake us, we cannot hide from the world as it is, nor shrink from our duties, nor escape to a mountaintop cabin to live in an imagined world of bliss. There is much to do here: families to raise and professions to embrace, including good work that can benefit humanity. The invitation then seems to be, "How do I live in the world, make a contribution, and still take good care of myself so I am calm, happy and healthy in the midst of it all?" This, indeed, is the $1 million question.
 
I believe the answer to this question lies in learning to live more gently and kindly with ourselves. This sounds like an oxymoron, perhaps even an impossibility considering the way we have been enculturated to live, but I assure you, it’s not. The success, if you will, of being able to live more kindly with yourself, even in the midst of chaos, is to learn how to listen more deeply to your inner voice of self-compassion, one that may not have been given space nor time to be heard. In the busyness of daily life, it is difficult to hear a voice that wisely whispers ever so subtly, “There is a gentler way.” I know because it’s taken one mishap, one health crisis after another, for me to hear it. To hear the sacred call to live more gently with yourself is one thing. To actually heed it and do what the voice of kindness says is another. To create a lifestyle rooted in self-compassionate awareness, full of loving choices that enable you to maintain health and well-being. 

Excerpted from the Introduction, Living Gently with Myself: A 30-Day Guided Journey by Janice L. Lundy