How do you care for yourself when your heart feels tender? Hurting? Sad? We each have our ways, each one unique, just as our fingerprint is unique. It seems to me that it's not the method that matters, but the acceptance of our soul's call to tend well to ourselves when we are feeling vulnerable or unable to engage in life in the usual fashion. I've been feeling that inner pull to silence and the quiet comfort that comes with a more gentle rhythm of my days since my dear mother passed away in March. Since then, I often find myself simply sitting, gazing out the window, resting my attention on the trees, or listening to the birds that come to our deck. But mostly, I am drawn to walking by myself. I hear a small whisper from within that says, "Just walk." It feels healing to do so. I walk mostly in quiet places with very few people. I stop, listen to the wind in the trees, notice the chirping of birds happily building their nests, and pause by the little brook that soothes my heart with wordless babbles. So sweet. I'm also soothed by poetry. I notice that my brain doesn't easily absorb the content of "regular" books right now. But the gentle turn of a phrase offered by a poet can land in my heart in just the right way. And that's all I need in the moment, a heart hug. How do you extend spiritual care to yourself when your whole being longs for gentle understanding?
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"When your whole being longs for gentle understanding." I love that phraseology, Jan. And I am sorry for your loss. We met in chats at the SDI conference. I am in a long and slow grieving process as here and there I lose little bits of my mother to dementia. I, too, find solace in nature, communing with trees mostly, but also the wind, birdsong, the smell of pine, new rosebuds and baby birds in the nest. Life. Gentle and nurturing.
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Kitty Wilson-Pote
5/27/2022 04:04:53 pm
Jan, thank you for sharing this strong, soft expression of the uniquely-felt sorrow of losing your mother. Maybe the most profoundly transformative life-loss of all.
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Sharon Stiansen
5/27/2022 09:04:15 pm
Dear Jan
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Laurel Hill
5/30/2022 11:01:22 am
Thinking of you and continuing to send healing thoughts and prayers. ❤️
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maureen conley ole
6/1/2022 12:49:40 pm
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Dr. Janice Lynne Lundy (PsyD, DMin, MPC)
is The Gerald May Professor of Spiritual Direction & Counseling at the Graduate Theological Foundation. She is an interspiritual director/mentor, educator and counselor who has been pointing people back toward the Sacred for nearly thirty years. Connect |